It's not just the picnics and get-togethers either that they clamped down on.
I remember when my kids were born , the sister would get together and arrange meals for a week or so. Or if someone was sick we would do this too.
It was a sister organized act of love that we did on our own. It made us feel good to give. Or feel loved if we were on the recieving end.
I've been inactive for quiet awhile now. While visiting a sister that is an elder's wife, who had just had a major surgery, I over heard a conversation that it is now the rule that sisters cant arrange meals for anyone, unless they get approval from the elders. One of the sisters talking was so freaked out beacasue she had been counseled recently for arranging an unauthorized organized dinner drop.
Very sad. Not only do they over control the fun social part of being around the 'Friends', but they control the simple act of giving.